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I Miss Michael Jackson: the Best Friend I Never Knew

ImageToday is the fourth anniversary of the death of Michael Jackson and I really feel sad. The pain started about 3 weeks ago and I responded by watching hours of YouTube performances of the Jackson 5, the Jacksons and solo performances by Michael. Some of my favorite performances were of the Jackson 5 on the Carol Burnett Show and the Jacksons reunion performance on the Motown 25 Anniversary program. I just kept replaying Michael’s dance performance on the Jacksons’ hit single,’Dancing Machine’ and his “Billie Jean”. Tears streamed down my face as I watched the talent, beauty and passion in every performance. The Guiness Book of World Records recognizes him as ‘the most successful entertainer of all time’.  I agree.

Michael Joseph Jackson was born on August 29, 1958, in Gary, Indiana. Four days earlier, August 25, 1958, in Chicago, Illinois, I was born. I first saw the Jackson 5 perform at the Regal Theatre when I was 10 or 11 years old. I was hooked on Michael Jackson, and I told my granny that I wanted to marry him when I grew up. I was devoted to Michael Jackson and I honored him with my teenage years by posting his likeness or every square inch of my bedroom walls. I was a super fan–and I still am, even though his physical appearance was remarkably different from who I developed a crush on.

There are many life events Michael and I experienced separately. He married twice and had 3 children. I married twice and 6 children. We both traveled the world, but our paths never crossed in adulthood. There are many conversations we never had, questions that were never asked and answers that were never given. I never got to establish an adult relationship with Michael Jackson, yet I feel he was a good friend.

Michael, Thank you for sharing your talent and your life with me and this whole world for our enjoyment and entertainment, at the high cost of your privacy and your very life.

May you rest in eternal peace, my friend.


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Chad ‘Ochocinco’ Johnson: Jailed for Playing Too Much


Former NFL player, Chad ‘OchoCinco’ Johnson married reality TV show actress, Evelyn Lazado in a lavish and highly publicized wedding in 2012.  The marriage lasted  only 41 days.  Lazado filed for divorce as  a result of domestic violence. Johnson, 35, is charged with head butting his wife during an argument. He was arrested, charged with domestic battery, and given probation in stead of jail. Due to the negative publicity, the Miami Dolphins cut him from the team before the start of the football season.

Recently, Johnson appeared in court to answer charges of probation violation. This could have resulted in jail time, but his attorney successfully argued a no-jail plea deal with the prosecutors and the judge. The judge offered an additional 3-month probation and counseling because Johnson failed to meet with probation officer for 3 months. As the judge was rendering the verdict, Johnson patted his attorney on the butt causing the courtroom to erupt into laughter. The judge became so offended by Johnson’s lack of taking the court seriously, that she rescinded her verdict and sentenced him to 30 days in jail.

After serving seven days in jail, Johnson appeared in court to offer an apology for his behavior, stating that the butt slap was not meant to be offensive, and that since he had never been in trouble before, he was unaware that his behavior was unacceptable in court.

Clearly, this is a prime example of how professional athletes can lack maturity in real life. While embroiled in an argument he chose to head butt his wife resulting in an injury that required stitches on her forehead. She promptly divorced him. Head butts are not allowed in contact sports, yet he thought this was an appropriate way to react in an argument with his wife? When he appeared in court he was not dressed in an appropriate manner for a 35 year old man, opting for the ‘hip hop’ look as opposed to business attire. To add insult to injury, he patted his attorney’s butt, as an ‘attaboy’ gesture during sentencing, not once but admittedly three times during court, like he imagined he was on a football field. And just as he’d done numerous times on the football field, he opted to entertain the spectators at his own detriment.

Chad appeared on Good Morning America, saying he’d learned his lesson.  Let’s hope he did. Because clearly Chad Ochocinco Johnson is a grown man who has a tendency to play too much.






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Michael Jordan Adds Another Wedding Band to Ring Collection

NBA legend and former Chicago Bulls guard, Michael Jordan is headed for marriage again, but this time he has a pre-nuptial agreement and a wedding ring for his new bride. Jordan, 50, and Yvette Prieto, 33, have dated five years and are scheduled to wed on Saturday, April 27, 2013 in Jupiter, Florida. A reception for over 2000 guests will be held at the couple’s 37,000 square feet home in Jupiter Bear Club. I wish Michael and Yvette all of life’s happiness and as a show of my support I will pause during work for a moment of silence, as I mourn the marriage of my secret crush.

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The Importance of Reading and Books to my Legacy


 “Books are a delightful society. If you go into a room and find it full of books, even without taking them from the shelves they seem to speak to you, to bid you welcome.”

This quote attributed to William E. Gladstone, speaks to the friendship found in books and reading.

Books encourage our minds to travel to far off locations and the stories heighten our sense of adventure and develop our imaginations. Children who are read to regularly become good readers. Children and youth  who read regularly become good writers. If a child is a strong reader there is no subject that cannot be mastered and no skill that cannot be self-taught. Reading is personal power.

Books can also be a lot of fun, as they allow us to interact with figments of other people’s imaginations as we read. Books can be a wealth of important and thought-provoking information. Books can create controversy and meaningful dialogue.

I taught each of my six children to read and to love books, just as my own mother taught me.   Each of my children are very accomplished in their academic pursuits. As adults they each continue to enjoy reading and hopefully will teach their own children to love reading as well.

Books encourage the reader to explore the unlimited creativity and endless artistic possibilities that lie within each of us. Books can be a mode of transportation from one geographical location to the next. Books can trigger the next best seller within a writer.

Books vary in subject matter and length. Not much time? Read a short book. A long riding journey or quiet afternoon? Read a book of many pages. Reading can be a good source of relaxation. Reading and books are very important and it is always a good time to read.

I strongly believe that the most valuable legacy that I can leave for my children, my grandchildren, and my future posterity, is to be remembered as a woman who loved  to read, who respected books, and who loved each of them enough to teach them by example to read and to love books. By purchasing books as gifts for holidays and birthdays for my family and friends, both adults and children, I’d hoped to instill a sense of adventure, a respect for the arts and a thirst for higher knowledge. I wanted to show the value I placed on the ability to read and the enjoyment of reading as entertainment and pleasure.  I hope they got my intended message.

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Writers Write–Period!

ImageI have had writer’s block for the last two years and I’m not sure why. I have been posting to Facebook everyday, but can’t seem to draft a complete essay. I’ve been over thinking this thing for the past few months and I’ve come to a conclusion. I guess its called an epiphany or an aha moment. Drum roll please. Writers write–period! So instead of thinking so much and making this complicated, I just need to write–period.

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Seaman Apprentice Curtiss Church, Jr.

Seaman Apprentice Curtiss Church, Jr.

My 5th born , Curtiss Church, Jr., in whom I am well pleased.

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November 25, 2012 · 9:30 pm

Ocean Waves: Bringing Peace In and Taking Stress Out

Neptune festival 005Sundays have now become my family’s day of bonding. Each week, schedules permitting, my abbreviated family which currently consists of my husband, Curtiss, myself and our youngest son, Christopher, venture out to enjoy events going on in Hampton Roads, my new adopted home. Recently we ventured to the ocean front to enjoy the beauty of the beach, the houses that line the coast, and the wild life that is ever present. It was a wonderfully peaceful day!

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November 25, 2012 · 6:46 pm